Have you heard about Transformational Vocabulary before? If you have, I believe you must have used it and seen its positive effects. If not, then I am sure that you will start practicing it after reading this post. As the term suggests, transformational vocabulary is nothing but a change in our vocabulary.   For example, we often use words when referring to someone like “that experience has transformed him/her into a completely new person.” Or “this new look transformed you.” So, we all have some idea about the word transformation.

Power of transformational vocabulary

Now let’s see how we can incorporate it into our behavior. In this, we consciously use our words to improve and change our life. It is not limited to just parenting. We can use it in our day-to-day conversations. Not just this, we can also practice it for ourselves and others.  Transformational Vocabulary gives you the power to change your experiences in life by lowering the intensity of negative emotions to the point where they no longer control you.

Don’t get scared seeing these big and long words. Make them your friend, and they are sure to change the way you look at any difficult or negative situation. Why did I say difficult or negative situation? Because happy or positive situations never bother us. We enjoy them, we don’t crib about them or get worried about happiness. The negative or challenging moments hit us hard. But if we can make smart use of transformational vocabulary, we will experience that we will transform our state of mind. And obviously, others will feel the positive vibes when they are around you.

We can choose how to respond to any situation

Some situations are not in our control. But we can choose how to respond to them. And that will change our experience. This gives us positive references for the future. Using transformational vocabulary, we can handle the toughest of situations. Because words have the power to change our internal state.

We all have some empowering beliefs and some disempowering beliefs when interpreting any event from the references that we had from our past experiences. The word we use to describe that situation affects our coping ability. No one has a bad intention. But it seems wrong to us when it does not align with our thinking or interpretation of the meaning that we attach to it. But by using transformational vocabulary we can break that pattern for ourselves and them.

Let’s begin. Here are a few common sentences we use on a daily basis:

When we are upset with someone or something, we often say:

1.I am slightly irritated

2.I am disappointed

3.I am so furious!

4.I am depressed!

Can you feel the negative intensity in these sentences? If we play close attention, we will find many such phrases.

Let’s try to make some minor changes in our vocabulary.

Replace:

1.I hope with I know

2.I should with I could

3.Obstacle with Opportunity

4.Too difficult with Require time

We all have heard about vibrations. Whatever we say is sent into the Universe, and the Universe sends it back to us. We call it the Law of attraction. I learned a little more about the Law of Attraction and its power through the book The Secret by Ronda Bryne. I was blessed to record its Marathi Translation.

Related article: The Law of Reversibility

Since our brain is wired with our old vocabulary, it may seem difficult in the beginning. We may have to put conscious efforts into replacing negative words with empowering ones.

Make a shift in your vocabulary and bring happiness into your life:

Include happiness, abundance, opportunity, growth, and hope into your vocabulary. When we use them, it creates a new pattern in our neurology. You can try it right now reading this post. Try one exercise by writing three words you use to describe your feelings. Then find a better word for each of these words. Do this until you are not satisfied with your new list. I am sharing a few examples from the book Awaken the Giant Within. The Hindi Audio Book summary of this book will be coming soon on KukuFM.

I am feeling :

1.content to serene

2.determined to unstoppable

3.fantastic to fabulous

4.fortunate to unbelievably blessed

5.great to incredible/phenomenal

6.fine to awesome

7.interesting to captivating

8.nice to spectacular/happy to

9.smart to gifted

These are just a few examples. Try the exercise and stretch yourself in coming up with many such words.

So, does that mean that we can never feel angry? Not at all. Anger can be a beneficial emotion at times when it is used positively. But anger cannot be the first resort. Transformational Vocabulary does not suppress negative emotions but increases the intensity of positive emotions.