We all need friends in our live. We say that people come into our life for a reason. Some of these people exit after that reason is over, and some stay with us forever. They become very important to us. We always think good things about them. But, sometimes it happens that they start acting a little weird. They do not try to stay in touch with you but tell others that you don’t have time for them. Or they go behind your back and ask about you and confirm the information you have already told them in detail. Isn’t this odd?
And some of them do not hesitate to talk rudely to us? Obviously, it will hurt us because we have never imagined it would hurt us. We were enjoying our friendship with them. But can we do anything about it? So, how to handle this behavior? We can neither take it nor ignore it. So, how to handle such people?The answer is simple – by filtering people out.
It is better to distract our minds from something else. I know what you must be thinking. How can we distract ourselves when we are hurt? Let’s understand one fundamental thing about human nature. Everyone has their way of seeing the world and reacting to situations. And everyone thinks that their thinking is correct. So, they may have some different expectations from us. And see it this way. It is better that you get to see their true colors. The longer it will take, the more painful it will get. It is better if such people exit our lives as soon as possible. It will hurt us for some time, but eventually, we will get over it. Our mind is powerful. Once we decide to not let these external factors bother us, we will not lose our sanity. But we need to be strong.
Now the question is – What if they realize their mistake and want to talk to us? Should we talk to them? As I said earlier in this post, we all have our way of seeing the world. So, whether we should talk to them or not is a personal choice. But as far as I am concerned, I would like to talk to my friend. I would keep my talk straightforward. The purpose of this talk is not to let them in my life again. But we must let them know that their behavior wasn’t right and they have no right to hurt or misbehave with us. Earlier when we didn’t say anything, it was our maturity. But now is the time to let them know. We cannot ignore such things.
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We all know the importance of filtering unnecessary stuff. We do it all the time in our house. And that filtering makes our life easy. Similarly, we should consider filtering people from our life to make it beautiful.
Alpana, I so much agree with you, more we keep toxic and negative people around it will affect the most on our life and above all mental health. It’s important to keep a proper distance from such people.
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This post is like a hint for me, for the current phase I am leading to. It is important to keep self happiness and peace as priority and keep filtering those who don’t like to be a part of this journey.
I am glad, you found the post helpful.
Filtering out people, loved the phrase. Yes, at a point we have to keep few people away and keep peace of our mind. As you said we have control over our mind and not others perspective.
Thank you.
I agree, some relations become toxic and need to be filtered out of our lives. It’s good for our mental and emotional health to stay away from negative people.
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This article should be read by many. We now live in a society where pleasing others may it be someone we know personally or at times even the mere reason why we post in SM is to please others which is really saddening. Keep it simple. You don’t need too many friends, you just need the right ones.
I agree. Do share it among your friends.
I’ve learnt this thing the hard way and agree with every word you say. Whether we’re letting them back into our lives or not, they need to know that they hurt us.
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At this age I learn you cant please everyone , people who love you never judge you for your choices but who dont love will never appreciate you . I start filtering people after I recovered from my cancer treatment . People can leave you in your worst time also when you need their kind words only ..
Better late than never
I agree with this article wholeheartedly
Toxic people can drain you dismiss and even diss you before you understand what’s happening it will take a toll on you
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Filtering people out is the most important part of every individuals decision, while facing people at work, relatives and strangers and even online now. Its very crucial.
I agree.
Totally agree with you . We need to filter people from our life who serves no purpose except negativity .
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