Delayed gratification is a very hard concept for kids to understand. It is not in their dictionary. With holiday season, stores are filled with gift options and making a trip to any store with kids seems a tough job. They get carried away with the beautiful display. Sometimes it gets very hard to explain them the reason for not buying them. The situation gets worst when you buy something for yourself and say no them. You can picturize the whole scene. Right? We always wonder how to teach kid about delayed gratification.
Yesterday we had gone to a store and my daughter said she don’t want to come as if she goes there, she will feel tempted towards some book that she likes. Somehow, I convinced her to come but this gave me a reason to write today’s post. It’s easy for kids to get tempted towards things they have in their wish list.
Respect their feeling: If your child is accepting that s(he) will get tempted then respect their feeling of accepting that she will get tempted. That sets a positive stage.
Teach them not to compare themselves with others: We all get carried away with the stuff or friends have. It is natural. Adults can control it, kids can’t. Simple. But as parents we know it’s not as simple as it sounds. So, it is our responsibility to teach them not to compare themselves with others. It is tough for the kids to understand it as their desire overpowers the teachings.
Tell them why it is not the right time: We tend to say straight No. This is not a satisfactory answer. No need to give them a timeline of when they can get it. When we say no, we have to tell them the difference between Needs and Wants.
Not going to the store is not the solution: Delaying gratification is hard..very hard for kids. By not going to the store is not going to solve the problem. So, what is the solution? Go there and face it. Try to control your desire. That’s what we did. My daughter was trying to avoid going in that area but somehow she passed through it. She stood there for a while, explored the books, but then she moved away. I know she controlled her desire. And she succeeded in that.
Act neutral: Inspite of many instructions and preaching sessions, kids still try their luck by exploring and bringing it to us with a hope of convincing us. They do show their tantrums but that time, we should act very neutral. Listen to them but don’t get too involved in it. You won’t be able to come out if it. So, if I face any such situation, I get transformed into a sincere listener and do not ask questions. When we show a controlled interest, it gives them a signal.
Be their role model: Telling kids not to get tempted and buy things and not following the rule just buy what pleases our eyes is not ideal. We have to set an example of the expectations we have from them.
These were my ideas on how to teach kids about delayed gratification. Please share your inputs on how you deal with such a situation.
After the fitness program, now it is the time to pamper your skin and hair with some home based tips. Hair fall, damaged hair, dry skin, even skin tone are few areas that bothers almost everyone. We always wonder why suddenly we start experiencing tremendous hair fall or why our skin has lost its smoothness?
Cosmetics market is always one of the booming markets. Thanks to us who are always eager to try out that new product shown in the ad and it has skin lightening, anti-aging, skin tightening ingredients or hair care products that will make our hair smooth, shiny, silky with every wash.:) I am sure we all would agree with the fact that even though we know these products are full of chemicals, we still use them.
Now, if you got a chance to hear the home remedies from your grand parents then you would be aware of what products they have used. They neither had these fancy looking products nor beauty salon. So, what have they used? They never had hair fall problems or skin related issues. The answer is less trial on your skin and hair and using home tips. They used to pamper their skin and hair with the homemade tips. They haven’t used make up to look beautiful. If I say they didn’t have to because they had a beautiful skin. Credit goes to the home based tips.
The tips I am going to talk about now are a combination of my own experience and few tried and tested ones by my friends. The good part with homebased tips is it doesn’t have any side effects. So, let me start with my own papering routine for skin and hair.
For Hair: I have wavy hair. So, they don’t fall under oft category.
Recently, post delivery, I have experienced little bit of hair fall. It was on and off. So I got back to my old hair care routine of coconut oil massage. But along with that I tried few other things too. And I can see they have started showing their positive effects. I am having less hair fall and my hair feel soft.
So What do I use?:
1: Coconut oil massage : Application: I divide my hair in sections and then take some coconut oil, rub it in between my palms and apply it. Tie them (not too tight) with a band. Wash it in the morning with regular shampoo. After the wash, I feel the softness and also it has reduced my hair fall.
2: Fenugreek seeds hair mask: I soak fenugreek seeds in water over night and in the morning make a paste out of it. Apply that paste starting from scalp. Let it dry then wash it with normal shampoo. This makes your hair strong.
3: Heat curry leaves and fenugreek seeds in coconut oil: Massage it on the scalp. Leave it for couple of hours or over-night. Wash in the morning. I prefer overnight.
4: Coconut oil mixed with ginger juice: I heard a lot about this so I tried this too. It was good, I felt cooling effect on my scalp after applying it. Your hair will become soft, it also prevent hair fall.
Now comes my skin care: I have a combination skin. My skin care routine is very simple.
First of all, neither I apply make up on regular basis nor do I use a lot of products. Occasionally I put light make up which includes B & B Cream, Lipstick, Eye Liner and a very light Blush. Products wise I use body lotion. During the day time, I use light moisturizer. During summer, I use sunscreen.
Face packs, scrubs, mask I use: (its not regular. May be once or twice a month)
1: Ground coffee + Coconut Flakes powder + Sugar. This is my favorite. Mix it and keep it in an air tight jar. You can mix it with rose water or your face wash while taking shower. It’s an instant scrub. If you don’t have coconut flakes then you can mix it with coconut oil.
2: Powdered oats + Orange peel powder. I save the orange peel and let it dry in sun. Then make a powder out of it. Mix it with milk or rose water or coconut oil.
Now, let’s talk about what others have told me.
We have so much in our kitchen. All the lentils can be used as scrub. You can use raw milk for cleansing you skin. Cream for moisturizing. You can apply coconut oil at night and get up with a baby soft skin in the morning.
Lemon juice + Sugar for instant glow
Gram flour + turmeric powder + cream + lemon juice for skin lightening
Fuller earth (multani mitti) powder + rose water as face pack
Tomato juice act as a bleaching agent. Mix it with rice powder or multani mitti or just apply tomato juice by itself.
Rubbing Papaya for glow.
Egg + Honey + Olive oil for conditioning for dry hair
Henna (for color and straightening) + Egg + Yogurt for conditioning
Fenugreek + Yogurt: soak fenugreek overnight, blend it with yogurt for conditioning dry hair
Yogurt + Lemon juice : for dry scalp and shine
Fenugreek seeds + mustard seeds + Kalonji (onion seeds or nigella seeds): soak it overnight. Then grind it with curry leaves + hair oil + yogurt (or milk and lemon)
Onion juice + Coconut Oil: For this, grate onion then take it in a cloth and press it to take out all the juice.
Apart from all this, proper food, drinking plenty of water, staying fit, and happy are few other pointers that we all should follow. If we are happy inside, it will reflect on our face too. Keep smiling always!!
So, I hope I have given you plenty of options. For this post, I would like to thank all my friends who have shared their beauty tips with me and my readers. So, Mammas, pamper your skin and hair with these home based tips. We have everything in our pantry. What we need is some time for ourselves. Go steal it. You deserve it.
Disclaimer: These are purely my thoughts that I have collected from different sources and my personal experience. Please understand, every skin and hair type is different and so are the needs. Do not consider these remedies as a solution for your skin or hair related issues. If you are facing any particular skin or hair related issue Or if you are allergic to any of the above mentioned ingredients, then consult your doctor before trying out anything new.
I was at my daughter’s Sunday school’s open house. The teacher was telling the parents about their curriculum. She mentioned about 24 teachers the kids will be learning during the year. These 24 teachers are nothing but gifts from Mother Nature. Though she didn’t give us the details but I found this title so interesting and it put me in the thought process of evaluating my teachers since childhood. The topic itself sounds very simple right? When I started to put together my thoughts in this post, it was fun and satisfying to think about those things Mother Nature has given us and those are our teachers. During childhood, we all have played with our friends in their company but never paid attention.
How many of us take a walk outside and spend time with nature everyday? Probably very few! Thanks to our busy schedules and the ultra fast paced life that most of us live! But each of these jewels we have enjoy to its fullest in our childhood days. Now its our children’s turn. We’ve forgotten that the world is out there to teach us. We don’t spend as much time outdoors as we used to do. So, let me tell you my 10 teachers since childhood:the jewels of happiness!! We all have them with us since childhood.
Sun: We have been told Sun gives us light. I say is there any other example of positivity than Sun? The mere coming up of sun and shining bright not only rejuvenates us but also make us ready for the day ahead. We learn that however dark the night was the day is going to bright.
Stars: Do stars seek inspiration outside to shine bright? Same way, we should be our own motivation. Motivation is within us, don’t search for it outside.
Sky: No matter what storms are passing, know it is always transient because beyond the clouds, the sky is always blue and the sun is always shining.
Clouds: As clouds, our thoughts too shall pass. We tend to get disheartened with small set backs. Learn from clouds how to handle the speed and direction of our thoughts.
Trees: They teach us to be adaptable to different situations. With changing weather, trees are the one who go through a lot but still they adapt to the change and stand still. They give shade to whoever come to them.
Flowers: Flowers teach us to spread love in all direction. Flowers don’t discriminate who they share their beauty and fragrance with.
Ants: Ants are an awesome example of teamwork. They are so tiny but they do everything collectively. We should never leave our friends in tough time.
Birds: Birds soaring through the sky represents the limitless freedom and potential available to us if we release our fears. Taking off to fly for the first time can be scary and bring about feelings of fear.
Water: We all start our with limited dreams and follow a calm stream. The as our dreams get bigger, the stream changes moves towards a river and then in a vast ocean. At this stage, we may not see the river bank. But if we have to achieve our dreams then we have to take this step.
Butterflies: Butterflies go through a long process before they turn into this lovely creature. Our life also goes through many changes inside out. Don’t resist change. Appreciate each phase of your life before you transform to a new cycle.
Do you agree with me? Have you enjoyed these jewels during your childhood? Do you call them your 10 Teachers since Childhood? Tomorrow is Children’s Day – Nov 14th. On Children’s Day, lets promise ourselves to be grateful to our 10 teachers of life who are there with us since childhood.
Thanks to my daughter’s Sunday school teacher who gave me this topic to think and write. 🙂 On Children’s Day, why not to pass on the gift of these 10 teachers to our children and let them enjoy it with double excitement.
Pulao may refer to: Pilaf, a rice dish consumed mainly in Central Asia, South Asia and the Middle East. Tawa Pulao is famous street food from India. Pulao can be made in many ways but Tawa Pulao got its name since it is made on tawa or griddle. It is a very common street food from Mumbai. The best part about this Tawa Pulao is it doesn’t need a whole lot of preparation. Cooked rice, vegetables, masala (I used pav bhaji masala). Pav bhaji masala is my handy option for adding instant flavor to any dish. It suits perfect for taw Pulao. Serve it with raita or some salad. To put it in simple words then vegetables of your choice are sauteed in a masala and tossed with boiled rice in a wide iron griddle (tawa) or wok similar to Chinese style vegetable fried rice.
It is hard to get the street food flavors that you enjoy from the Tawa Pulao made by the vendors but we can give it a try. This can be an ideal one pot meal or lunch box option or a Sunday brunch/lunch/dinner. One thing you should be careful about is do not overcook the vegetable.They should retain the crunch. And yes, use butter instead of oil. This will enhance the flavors. Don’t feel guilty of consuming butter. You are also eating loads of vegetables..:). So lets get started.
For Tawa Pulao, you will need:
Cooked rice: 2 cups (Basmati or any rice you use at home)
Cumin Seeds : 1/2 teaspoon
Ginger-Garlic paste : fresh
Vegetables : cauliflower, tomato, onion, green chili, peas, carrots, bell pepper (I like to cut my veggies of same size) (I have microwaved carrots, cauliflower)
Butter: 2 tablespoons
Oil: 1 tablespoons
Pav bhaji masala: 1 1/2 spoon (adjust as per taste)
Turmeric powder: 1/4 teaspoon
Salt: to taste
Red Chili powder : as per taste
Lemon juice: as per taste
Cilantro: chopped- 1/2 for masala and 1/2 for garnishing
In a flat wide griddle or tawa, heat oil and butter.
Once hot, add cumin seeds and allow to splutter.
Add the chopped onions and green chilies and saute for 2-3 minutes.
Add the minced ginger and garlic, mix and saute for 3 minutes.
Add the chopped capsicum and saute for a minute. Then add the chopped tomatoes and half of the cilantro leaves and saute till oil separates and becomes mushy.(adding cilantro in masala adds up to the flavor)
Add red chili powder, pav bhaji masala and salt. Mix well.
Add the cauliflower, carrots and mix well. Add a few tbsps of water (if needed) and cook on low-medium flame for 7-8 minutes.
Add the green peas and mix well.
Now add the cooked rice and mix well.
Check the salt and mix the rice. (be careful while adding salt as pav bhaji masala has salt in it)
Add the lemon juice and chopped cilantro leaves and mix well.
Turn off flame.
Transfer to a serving bowl and serve warm with any raita or salad.
Recently, one of the readers suggested me to write something about why and how moms should include exercise in their routine. Since this topic was in my mind and now coming from a reader, it was a good reason to start thinking about it. I am not a fitness guru or a yoga expert. I am also a mom just like you who is trying to find a balance between her other activities, commitments and staying fit. For this post, I took inputs from other moms and then drafted this piece based on the common issues they face. I asked them 3 questions – 1. How will you define fitness? 2. Do you had/have a regular exercising routine? 3.If not then what are the things that are stopping you from following it? I found more or less the same issues that are stopping them from following the routine. And that’s how I got my todays’ post idea – “Let’s Get Some Exercise Mamma.”🙂
One thing that was clear in all their answers was they have the same definition for fitness. Fitness is staying fit, eating right and exercising regularly. It is important to stay happy and confident.Since they are also mothers, so they have the same restrictions – like kids unpredictable schedule, tiredness because of busy routine, too much of work and lack of focus. To some extent, we all would agree that after we take up mommy role, many things goes on the back burner. One of them is exercising. But the fact is, this is the time when we need to follow it more sincerely. It’s not just about losing the baby weight but there are several other reasons like it tones our muscles, increase flexibility, act as stress reliever, boost up our morale, help in staying happy.
I am going to focus on what comes in our way of following an exercising routine. Let me walk you through the reasons I can think of… So are you ready? Grab your yoga pants, water bottle, and earbuds and get ready to sweat!
I am so tired: We all know being a mom means long hours, busy days and sleepless nights. Yes, we get tired. But that should not be the reason for not doing exercise. We think exercise will make us even more tired. But it won’t. No need to do a rigorous workout. Take a walk outside. The morning breeze will gives you a spark. Go slow.
I don’t have time: In 24 hours, is it that difficult to find 30 minutes (ok 15 minutes) for yourself? I agree all days are not the same. Many times it happens with me too. I feel I have so many things to do, how can I spend 30 minutes for exercise. In such cases, I cut it down to 15 minutes. Instead of 20 repetitions, I do just 10. We have to figure it out. Make a routine habit even if it’s just for 30 minutes a day. Believe me very soon, you will start looking forward for these 30 minutes.
Mornings are too busy: Mornings are busy for almost everyone. If morning hours do not suit your schedule, you can do exercise after you finish your morning chores. In a way its better as you don’t have any thoughts running in the background. After my daughter was born, I used to do exercise in between 2-3pm. Odd hours right? But that used to work for me.
I need a motivation: Agreed. We all need someone to push us . And I have seen many people want a buddy for their exercising routine. No problem. It’s always fun to have a partner in your fitness journey. Somehow, this doesn’t work for me a lot. I usually walk alone, exercise alone. That way I am in-charge of my own time. I don’t have to wait for someone.
My schedule is unpredictable: After we have kids, our schedule changes. Not little but a lot. But that shouldn’t make us quiting things that we used to do during our pre-kids stage. You are setting an awesome example in front of them by staying fit. I often hear my daughter saying to her friends, you know my mom..she can touch her feet even without bending her knees..:)
Regular chores are as good as any workout, why do I need anything extra: Really? Are we being honest to ourselves? In USA, we do not have the help of cleaning lady coming every day or for other house related help. Here we have to do everything on our own. It does requires energy but is considering it as exercise correct? First of all our mind is not free. Exercise doesn’t mean finishing 30 minutes of some physical training. We should enjoy it.
All these above points are only possible when we follow the last point:
Accepting No Excuses: The best way to get started is to refuse to accept any excuses for why you can’t exercise. Giving yourself reasons to stop is an easy way to fail. I am quoting the words of one of the moms I talked. She says, “Time management and determination is must. Without these two, we cannot be disciplined in any activity.”
Alright, so are you charged up yet? Little bit? Good. Now let me walk you through my exercise routine.
Once my daughter is off to school and if my little one is up (which is yes on most of the days), I play with him for an hour to hour and half. Then he gets busy with is things and I start doing the meal preparation. You can read about how I do the prep work here. In an hour or so, I am mostly done with everything. Then I give my little one his breakfast followed with shower. He usually takes nap after shower. And that’s the time I do my exercise (20-30 minutes). I mostly do deep stretching. I have been doing stretching from last couple of years. As we all know with young kids, we have to be flexible with our routine so I do not depend on my morning walk or going to gym. Doing this at home works best for me. I take my little one for evening walk everyday but that I do not count in my exercise. So by doing my exercise in the morning, I feel satisfied of keeping up with my commitment. Then I take shower and get to my writing work. If I am lucky and my kiddo is sleeping then I finish writing my post otherwise it goes in draft. Once my daughter come back from school, I get busy with her.
So, don’t wait mamma..
Get active, mamma. Get active for yourself for your kids and for the healthy habits you want to instill in your lives. Your kids are important and they’re watching everything you do.
I have tried my best to do justice with my friend mamma’s request of writing on this topic.
Disclaimer: These are purely my thoughts. Before starting any exercise or fitness program, please consult your doctor.