When we welcome our bundle joys for the first time, we don’t know what we have stepped into. 🙂 Then starts the journey of laughter, tears, fear, and unconditional love. We remember the words of our parents – “You will understand this when you will become one.” Isn’t? We have heard this line so many times from our parents. I used to wonder what and why is it so challenging that this is the favorite takiakalam (punchline) of every parent? But now, after I have experienced motherhood twice, I can say it is way more challenging than how it sounded in words. The overall definition of parenting or mommying has changed a lot and it has become even more complicated. Whenever our kids test us, our usual reaction to them is we are the same, you have to behave properly. Kids don’t have any experience to say this (luckily, we get the privilege). Then what is that which makes it look like a puzzle? I guess it’s the changing time. In my 2019 resolution post, I wished to have a superpower to persuade my toddler and to make my kids listen to me in the first go. Do you wish the same? I am taking it as a “yes”. Alright, so to make this happen, we may have to make some changes in ourselves.

Can we press ctrl+z in Mommying? If not then what?

 

 

When I decided to write on this prompt “What is your secret and most effective Momology or Parenting mantra that comes handy in the most tricky situation”, I had a very picture of what I will be writing. First time when I wrote anything about my Parenting Mantra was when I participated in my first ever blog train. That was when my daughter was 9 years old and my son was 1 year. Now she is 10 and my son is 2. In this one year, many things have changed. I got matured as a parent by 1 year.

No matters how many books we read, we are the author of our own book when it comes to mommying. And the story we write is a combination of many moments; it is a combination of fear, laughter, love. In fact, I feel we experience the navrasas during this journey. But still, there are times when we are not able to move on to the next chapter. Some lines seem missing and despite having the storyline in our mind, we are not able to put it into words. And that’s when we seek for some magic what we call parenting mantra. Frankly speaking, there is no parenting mantra. I think there cannot be just one mantra or momology. We have to change our mantras as per the changing situation. Sometimes we have to be strict, at times we have to become their friend, sometimes we have to gather all our courage and face a tough situation.

So, what is the definition of a tricky situation for a parent? When our kids don’t listen to us despite us explaining our expectations from them. Is that what we would describe as “tricky”? Or when we go clueless about what’s going on and we don’t know how to handle it. Is this the same definition for you as well?

From my parenting experience, I can only say, so far, “going with the flow” has been my mantra. Even if we plan things for our kids and for ourselves, not every time it goes as per our wish. So, what can we do? Neither we can press Ctrl+Z and undo what has already happened nor we can predict everything about the future. What we have in our hands right now is our present. We can only Edit it. And that’s why I said, I cannot quote any mantra in particular. Going with the flow and finding my way as I proceed on this journey is what has helped me so far. I hope it will help you as well. Now you tell me, do you think we can press ctrl+z in mommying? 

 

This post is part of #Momology” Blogtrain hosted by SlimExpectations, ThoughtsByGeethica, Mummasaurus and TrulyYoursRoma sponsored by FirstCry, Intellikit, Instacuppa, Diet Funda, Hugs n tugs, Tina Basu, Unorthodoxpeeps, Lotus Herbals baby and Shumee toys. 

I would like to thanks Arvind Passey for introducing me in the Momology Blog Train. You can read more about his work at http://www.passey.info . I would like to introduce UK who blogs at https://fashionablefoodz.com.

Prompt: What is your secret and most effective Momology or Parenting mantra that comes handy in most tricky situation.

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