Do you remember the Surf Excel Ad in which brother didn’t mind to get soaked in the muddy water just because his little sis’s skirt gets dirty? Or the Cadbury celebrations ad in which brother saves his pocket money to buy a bar of Dairy Milk for his sister as a Rakshabandhan gift? Do these commercials struck a chord? To me they do. I want to watch them over and over not because those kids look cute but because the relationship, the bond between brother & sister shown is cute. Brother-sister bond..hmmm. I used to (and I still) wonder why these commercials are not picturized with two sisters or two brothers? Why does it always have to be a brother and a sister? No matters what combination is shown but the bottom line is sibling bond is always special.

 

I have one sibling who is four years elder to me. I call her Tai (which means elder sister in Marathi). She is my best pal, my secret keeper, my guide, a patient (now I admit it) listener to my silly talks. We have shared many late night talks which our mom is still trying to decode what we used to and still talk, enjoyed shopping together (I still remember, I used to tell my mom not to send me with her as she will forget me somewhere), eating out, watching movies and what not. I want to re-live those days again. I am sure we all do. Isn’t? This is our yesterday (Kal).  I am miles away from Tai but thanks to WhatsApp that allows us to still continue with our long talks (with kids, late night is not possible now) but we save that for our in-person meet.

 

 

Life fast forward. Now I am a mom of two. The combination as shown in the commercials –  a girl & a boy. I call it a mixed-doubles. My kiddos are 8 years apart. Many have asked me when my second one was born that how does it feel to go back to the old mommy role once again? My answer was I am an experienced mom now. The first time was a learning phase for me, now I can enjoy it.:)

 

When I see my kiddos getting along with each other, I feel content and happy. As I said, my kiddos are eight years apart. It is definitely a slightly larger gap than the usual but when I see my little one following his elder sister in everything she does, this gap doesn’t seem to matter. I am living outside India and my kids do not get a chance to enjoy the company of their cousins. They miss out on many family occasions where they would have gotten a chance to meet their extended family if we were in India. But having a sibling fills the vacuum which they would have felt being all alone. After all, a sibling is someone with whom you don’t have to be formal; from whom you can learn so many things; with whose presence, you learn the meaning of togetherness. It’s that bond which is so special that words fall short. It’s that bond which can sail us through the tough time, sad moments. It’s the bond that only siblings share. And that’s my Today or Present (Aaj).

 

When I talk about my Tomorrow (Kal), I see myself as a satisfied mom who is happy to give her daughter a sibling. Mom who can only think of all the wonderful years of her kid’s upbringing. Mom who can only say to other couples that giving a sibling to your elder one can be a personal choice but if you see the bigger picture then that is the best gift of the life-time you can give to your child.

So, this was my Kal, Aaj aur Kal. I hope you all have enjoyed it.

#SiblingStories is a blogging train hosted by Ila Varma in collaboration with the Brand #angtatva 31 esteemed bloggers from blogging fraternity have joined hands to participate in the Blog train for #SiblingTalk reviving the sweet and tickling hours spent with loving siblings and revive golden memories of the past.

So obviously, there is a lot more to come about Sibling talks. Thank you Arvind Passey for introducing me. He has raised a very important topic in his post. To read the next story of #SiblingStories, lets check out what Shipra has to share tomorrow.

Enjoy!!