(This post was originally published at World of Moms)

Pregnancy is a very beautiful and a special journey. Knowing the fact that you are nurturing another life inside you is such a divine feeling. It is a very crucial and sensitive phase for every expectant mother. While going through it, sometimes she faces few questions, situations, occasions when she don’t know what to say as it puts her into an uncomfortable state. I haven’t face many such occasions but yes, there were few. Things you should never say to a pregnant woman are:

• You look tired: Is it really required? That is a totally unwanted question. Just imagine that there is another life inside her and how can she look active as she used to be in her pre-pregnancy state all the time. And even if she looks tired, there is no need to mention that to her.

• You look pale: Pregnancy is not an easy journey. It gets tiring many times especially, towards the end. There are lots of hormonal changes that her body goes through. Sometimes there is weight gain that is not in her control, swelling on her feet, fingers and face. She herself doesn’t feel like a beauty queen; she herself is trying to adjust with this new look. And during this time, if people comment on her looks, don’t you think that is unreasonable?

• You haven’t gained a lot of weight, is the baby doing okay?: I have faced this question couple of times. And every time, my answer used to be yes, my doctor is fine with my weight. I agree weight plays a major role during pregnancy but when the doctor is fine with that what is the need for others to check the weight? Even if you know that everything is fine but still when people ask such questions, every mom-to-be become concerned. The situation gets worst when she is the first-time mom.

• Giving her a picture of how her life going to change: She knows that very well. And to extend this point then if she is a second-time mom, people have few extra words to say- “If it is a boy then you will be on your toes; they are very naughty; life is different when you have a boy, girls are easy to handle”. Come on, let her figure it out. Not all kids are the same. Upbringing, parenting style matters too.

There are few more situations and questions like the above mentioned or should I say things you should never say to a pregnant woman .

I hope you will agree with me. The sole idea of anyone meeting any pregnant woman should be not to bombarded her with unnecessary questions, no matters which trimester. Let her enjoy her own journey. Be with her but don’t clutter her mind with anxiety!